Most of us have been on the receiving end of a toxic person’s influence for most of our life. How to avoid toxic people in our life? It’s hard to admit this, but sometimes it feels like there are more toxic people in the world than there are good ones.
And yet, We’re optimistic that we can all find better ways to relate to each other—and ourselves—if only we’re willing to take a step back and reevaluate our relationships with others.
How to Find Toxic People in Your Life
Most of us find toxic people around us. Most of the time they will speak always negatively which is going to impact our life.
We should avoid toxic people. Most of the time it’s not easy to avoid when any way toxic people always have this kind of quality in their life you can find them. Here is how you can find them
1.They Take a Lot More Than They Give
Toxic people take more than they give. They take more than they need or deserve, and some of them even take more than they can afford.
They may be doing this for any number of reasons: to prove their superiority over others, because it’s their job to do so, or simply because it’s what they do best in life—that is, if there are any other options at all (which there usually aren’t).
2.They Are Always Complaining
When you are with a toxic person, you can feel like you are in the middle of an emotional hurricane.
They complain about everything and everyone—your job, your friends, their parents—and it’s all aimed at making themselves feel better by making others feel worse.
Toxic people often have no sense of self-worth or self-esteem so they focus on what other people are doing wrong rather than taking responsibility for their actions.
Toxic people are constantly looking for something to complain about because if there’s nothing new happening in their life then there isn’t anything left to talk about!
If they can’t find something new then it means that everything is going great which sends them into a tailspin of negativity until something else happens (which will probably be another complaint).
3.They Say One Thing and Do Another
- They say they will do one thing, but they don’t
- They say they will help you, but don’t
- They say they’ll be there for you, but they aren’t
4.They Have a Disconcerting Need to Control Your Actions, Feelings, and Thoughts
This is a dangerous situation because it can lead to all kinds of problems in the long run.
They are not only controlling you but also telling you what to do and how to think; this is completely unhealthy and unsafe for any relationship.
5.They Are Manipulative
You’re probably thinking, “But I’m not manipulative! I don’t do that!” Well, you might not be able to recognize manipulation when it is happening right in front of you.
However, there are many subtle signs that someone is being manipulative:
- They are good at getting what they want through emotional manipulation (e.g., praise and attention) or guilt trips (e.g., making threats if the other person doesn’t comply).
- Their behavior seems irrational or unreasonable compared with what would happen if they were allowed to speak their mind freely without fear of retaliation from others in the group (for example: “Only my opinion matters”).
6.They Seem to Know More About You Than Your Parents or Best Friends
It’s natural to feel comfortable around those who know you well. They may have been watching your every move for a long time, and they may even have a good memory.
If someone has been keeping track of things like this, they can be quite scary—but not necessarily in the way you think!
The first thing to know about toxic people is that they’re probably not going to tell you what’s going on (and if they do, it won’t make sense).
They’ll just keep making subtle comments or giving subtle hints until one day it will all click together in your head: “Oh yeah! This person knows everything about me.”
And then there are two options: Either accept their knowledge as fact or reject it completely as nonsense (which often happens).
If this sounds familiar—and I hope it does—you’re probably being controlled by someone who doesn’t want anything good for yourself.
7.They Don’t Seem to Care If You Succeed or Fail
A toxic person doesn’t care about your success or failure. They don’t care about your feelings, health, and education.
They don’t care about your financial status either. They only want to see you fail so they can feel superior to you because of it.
This type of person is not interested in being a good friend or mentor because they know that if they cared enough about someone’s success, that person would probably become successful anyway (and then who would be left as competition?).
8.They Make You Feel Guilty When They Don’t Get What They Want
They’ll make you feel guilty for not doing their bidding, or for making a decision that doesn’t align with theirs. It’s the same tactic used by narcissists, but it can be more subtle when applied by toxic people.
They might ask you if they’re going to miss out on an opportunity because of their absence (or your leaving), or insist that their feelings are hurt because of something else that happened at work today.
Toxic people will also try and force guilt onto those around them—your friends and family members—so they can manipulate them into changing their minds about something important.
How Toxic People Going to Distract Your Life
Even if you find toxic people you have to avoid any cost.
But sometimes it’s easy to avoid the surround every day. Here is how it’s going to affect your life.
1.You Start to Feel Bad About Yourself When You’re Around Them
You start to feel bad about yourself when you’re around them. You feel like you’re not good enough, and that is what makes these types of people so dangerous.
When someone comes into your life who doesn’t see the value in you as a person, it can be hard to get rid of that feeling.
The more time spent with this person, the more likely they will affect your self-esteem and make it harder for anyone else to love or respect you!
There are many ways that toxicity affects our lives:
- They make us feel like we don’t deserve anything good in our lives because their bad behavior has affected how others treat us as well as ourselves throughout our lives;
- Their toxic behavior makes other people believe that they are also toxic (even though they may not show signs);
- The victims of toxicity become depressed because they can no longer trust themselves or others around them;
2.You Start Dreading Being Around Them Because It Never Ends Well
You feel like you are always walking on eggshells around them, and that you need to apologize for everything.
You find yourself apologizing for every action and even thought before they have a chance to do so. The other person doesn’t even know why they’re upset or angry yet!
It’s like there is this invisible force field around everyone who thinks negatively about others (and perhaps themselves) that makes it impossible for anyone else to see the good in another person until after their negative thoughts have been confirmed by the world at large.
3.Toxic People Affect Everyone Differently But There Are Ways to Protect Yourself From Their Negative Influence on Your Life
Toxic people can be hard to avoid, spot, get rid of, and stay away from. But there are ways you can protect yourself from their negative influence in your life.
First off: don’t get involved with toxic people on a personal level! If they’re not going to change and improve their behavior, then they don’t deserve any more attention or respect than anyone else who’s doing the same thing.
You’ll end up spending all day thinking about these people instead of focusing on the things that matter in your life—and that’s no good at all!
Second: Know how to spot toxic behavior when it happens around you so that you know how best to respond when it does happen (e.g., by avoiding contact).
For example: if someone says something hurtful or negative about another person but then turns around and says something nice about them later on down the line—that would be an example of one type of “turnaround.”
Other examples include compliments given after insults have been made; praise given after criticism has been expressed; flattery offered over time until eventually turning into full-blown infatuation…
Conclusion
If you’re ever feeling down and think that no one cares about you, remember that there are millions of people who care about your well-being.
You don’t have to put up with toxic people just because they’re close by or have access to things like money or power.
What matters is having people who support your efforts at living a healthy life, supporting your goals, and helping you reach them despite obstacles that may arise along the way.
